Our employment, relationships, and health will all suffer if we don’t have enough self-esteem. It is comparable to constructing a house on sand as opposed to concrete. Many people struggle far too frequently as a result of poor self-worth. Self-esteem is essential for a healthy soul.
Recognize your flaws while remaining lovable
Every time we think of ourselves as flawless, every time something shatters this self-created false reality, it usually leaves us distressed and disabled. So, the answer is to accept that you’re flawed but yet lovable. Your perception of yourself as perfect will make it hurt harder when you inevitably fall short.
Know your natural talents and shortcomings
A common cause of low self-esteem is comparing oneself to other people. We may observe someone who is more attractive, more successful, or who possesses qualities we lack, such as a romantic partner, property, prestige, etc.
These superficial comparisons can rapidly make us feel inferior, useless, and less lovable. Examining your innate talents and shortcomings is a terrific skill you can employ.
The best position to be in is neutral: each of us has our strengths and shortcomings; neither of us is better or worse than the other. Be mindful that everyone has intrinsic talents and shortcomings and to avoid comparing your insides to others’ outsides.
Make peace with who you are
What essential values do you hold? Do you think your presence here is an error? Are you the product of pure chance, or is there something bigger at work here? Is there no point to your life? How we make decisions, think, feel, and act is determined by our underlying beliefs. Which of your key beliefs best serves you? Examine your beliefs again.
Get rid of past shame
Without a doubt, we have all done things that make us ashamed. Additionally, we can unjustly be carrying someone else’s shame.
There are several ways to let go of shame, including
- Making restitution to those you’ve injured, unless doing so would endanger them or other people.
- Deciding to change how you live and behave today if you can’t atone.
- Using spiritual practices, such as prayer.
Rephrase “failure”
Another cause of low self-esteem is failing to achieve our goals and failing in contests, dates, interviews, etc. Is it any wonder that we feel like failures if all of our perceptions of events and results revolve around success and failure? This is a fairly constrained and binary way to look at things. The statement “It’s not failure, its feedback” is more illuminating.
This might not be about me is another enlightening perspective
Sometimes, nothing about it is personal. Imagine if you performed flawlessly in the interview but nonetheless were denied the position. You never know; the interviewer might have chosen to hire a friend or a relative.
Your date can already be in a relationship, be still recovering from a breakup, or be dealing with unresolved subconscious trauma. In conclusion, pay attention to the narrative you are weaving about yourself based on the events that occur to you.
